I moved to Lake Charles, LA at the end of August 2002...one of my best friends, Angela had a prediction: "You're gonna meet someone, fall in love, get married and have a bunch of kids." I thought she was crazy, I was only 22 and was moving over 400 miles away from any family or friends, I was going to explore beyond the boundaries of where I was comfortable and nothing was going to stop me....but never in a million years did I ever think that she could possibly be right. I had moved to LA through a job transfer. I opened up a brand new store in the mall from bare walls to booming business. We opened in September so the first 4 months of my move was fully dedicated to running a brand new store and training an entire staff at once..absolutely no time to socialize.
When January came around I was finally ready to learn my new surroundings. Never did I think that January would change everything. In the 2nd week of the month Herman and some friends came into the store. They were so into our products (come on now, we were all in our early 20's and it WAS Spencer's, who wasn't into their products??) I told my assistant, "look at these fools (lol) i'm gonna go mess with them" Herman and I talked for awhile and he ended up giving me his number before leaving the store (and I promise that I did not walk up to him with any intentions to flirt, I was seriously making fun of him for staring at some laser light show for ever)...and BTW, if you ask him he will insist I gave him my number but don't believe a word he says (lol). I debated for a couple of days on whether or not to call him, but obviously I did decide to do so. We went on our first date the day after we talked and we have seriously been inseparable ever since. It was an extremely quick moving relationship...we became exclusive by the end of January, exchanged first "I love you's" by that Valentine's Day and were living together by the end of Feb!!
We have now been together for about 8 1/2 years but have only been married for 8 months. Things happened a little backwards for us, the kids came before the marriage, but in our hearts we have been married in God's eyes long before we signed papers. I know many people probably think we don't match, we are both so different from each other and come from completely different worlds. It's actually because of the fact that we are so different from each other that makes it work...our differences completes each other.
Wonder how we make it work? Because we are determined to. Because we are dedicated to make it work, no matter what comes at our lives. We made a decision that we would work through life together and we have. Those who know us well know that we have had our ups and downs. Even then, nobody but the two of us truly knows how many up and downs there have really been because we refuse to expose them all. We have been through A LOT! It's through all of these ups and downs that our relationship gets stronger because we refuse to give up just because it gets hard, instead we decide to push through and figure out how to make it work.
We love each other, we love and adore our kids, and we enjoy this adventure called life which is even better because we experience it together:)
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